Some Say Love...

When it comes to the qualities of love that I want to have in my future relationships, I am very traditional.  I think that both people in a committed relationship need to establish a mutual sense of trust, loyalty, honesty, attraction, and friendship.  On a serious level, I think that the two people need to have similar views on approaching their life goals.  One person cannot be insanely driven and focused while the other is lazy and carefree. Additionally, they don't need to necessarily be in complete agreement with religious and political views, but they have to be willing to compromise or not let opposing views affect their relationship.  However, I also think that some form of a sense of humor is crucial to a lasting relation.  A balanced sense of humor can help people relax and realize that the current issue may not be that important.  A sense of humor can accompany a playfulness and a sense of adventure that make a relationship fun and easy.

I think that the majority of my preferred characteristics are expressed in song lyrics.  First, is "Love Somebody" by Maroon 5.  This song references that hollow feeling that someone who desperately wants to fall in love feels everyday.  It mentions a willingness to fall into a love that you can't turn back from or recover from.  Next is "Fearless" by Taylor Swift.  There is a line that says, "And I don't know why, but with you I'd dance in a storm in my best dress Fearless."  I think that line captures the playfulness and spontaneity that makes love enjoyable, but it also captures to level of trust that makes her blindly follow him into the rain.  "Crash My Party" by Luke Bryan describes the devotion and willingness to drop everything for that boy or girl who might need you at any moment.  One of the lines says, "You can wake me up in the dead of the night; this is a drop everything kind of thing."  Another song by Taylor Swift is "Mine."  This song describes finally finding that perfect person, and how that relationship can withstand anything, because both people refuse to let the other go no matter what kind of fight they experience.  "There is no fear, let go and just be free, I will love you unconditionally," is a lyric from "Unconditionally" by Katy Perry.  I feel like that line just sums up the love that every couple should be reaching for.  Unconditional love applies to God's love for us, a parent's love for a child, and it should apply to every couple.

After reading the assigned article, I realized that I do not completely believe in one specific soul mate for every person.  If someone decides to go on a quest looking specifically for his or her soul mate, that mate may never be found, because the person looking has no idea what his or her soul mate is like.  A perfect spouse is someone who loves you unconditionally and want you to be happy, not necessarily someone who was born as "your other half."  I do believe, however, that a couple can be meant to be.  I believe that some people meet by chance for certain reasons, some long friendships can turn into romances, and some people just click without thinking about it.  I think I believe that love happens when you least expect it.